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The success of every parent they say lie in comprehending the talents of their children and doing all they can to help establish themselves in the fields they choose to. So, if you want to be a successful parent, you would be required to observe your children and find out their interests. You need to be proactive enough to look for the best places that you can buy art supplies for your children at the best rates. These art supplies might include and range from anything to easels and paint brushes and colors and chart papers to anything that your child might require. As a parent, one has to be well informed about the kids’ art supplies and the places where these can found at low costs without any compromise on the quality. Kids art supplies can be gifted to children at the time of their birthdays and these can be delightful to them. Quality easels should be chosen as the height of the easels and the degree in which it slants matter when kids are using this kind of art supplies. When parents purchase kids art supplies for their children, the children will feel that parents think they mean the world to them and strive to excel in their arts.

well since you are irregular it is hard to tell. try to wait for about 3 weeks at least and buy a test that will detect the hcg hormone earlier than others, that should help

i had unprotected sex on the 28th of july…i have irregular periods…when should i test? i have a feeling i might be

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I have irregular periods too and it’s really hard to tell. Mine comes every other month but always on different days when I’m unsure I test every 2 weeks… it’s a little paranoid but theres no other way to I can have peace of mind otherwise.

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I would wait until at least the 28th of August since you are irregular. It would be a pretty safe bet to wait at least a month

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Have you gotten the thumbs down and a smart comment for telling it like it is when they ask about a spoiled baby?

I am probably the oldest poster on this site and I get loads of thumbs down…….usually from very young mothers who are convinced that the methods they *intend* to use (or the methods they are currently using) are the best.

I have been put in my place on many occasions for my strong opinions on a few subjects. I see too many children being abused and too many people using words like “whooping”, “popping”, “smacking”, etc…..when it comes to discipline. The age or mentality of the parent becomes evident when I see these words used and it makes me very sad for their children.

As most parents, I despise abuse. I am not just talking physical abuse…..emotional, verbal……..all the same to me. There are far too many abused children in this world and I know there are some abusers who post on this site. That is clear! Often times when I ask a question, I am directing it to one person who has gotten under my skin by an answer they have given or a question they have asked.

There are also many, many good parents on this post and I admire many of them. I have actually stayed away alot lately because many people are becoming very rude on here and I find myself giving it back. Not fun anymore. Too much fighting going on. Immature, especially for parents to behave in such a way.

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These are what I call, “professional mommies”. Normally not a specific age, but have had a couple of kids and read all the books and magazines about raising them - which they follow to the letter. These are the people who routinely tell me that I shouldn’t occasionally let my kid have junk food, or go outside and get dirty, or take five minutes for myself during the day. Or like my neighbor who came over and literally yelled at me once for letting my kids play in the rain. These people genuinely believe that they know everything there is about children, and any deviation from their plan is just wrong. At some point, you have to learn to politely tell them that there is more than one good way to raise a child, and unless you see me beating them you need to keep your nose out of it.

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My hubby and I have been considering adopting for a few years now. We would welcome a child into our home regardless of gender or race (etc..etc..etc..)
However we want to make sure we are up to date on the issues at hand
Can you recommend some books we should read?

If you are considering infant (private) adoption, an excellent book that I read is “The Open Adoption Experience” by Lois Ruskai Melina and Sharon Kaplan Roszia.

If you are thinking of adopting a toddler, an good book that I read is “Toddler Adoption” by Mary Hopkins-Best. Some reviews I read on this book criticized it as a book that may potentially could scare people off from adoption because it doesn’t sugar coat anything, but I really liked this book and I would rather know honestly what to expect and then have it turn out better than I expected.

My husband and I started out pursuing private adoption (for an infant) and ended up going the route of foster care adoption through child services. We are so close to be finished the process, are are almost approved (oh, the waiting!!), so we’ve been to all sorts of seminars on adoption, both routes, so if you have any questions about it all, please don’t hesitate to ask.

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“Being Adopted: The Lifelong Search for Self” by Brodzinsky, Schecter, and Henig

* “Journey of the Adopted Self” by Betty Jean Lifton

* “The Primal Wound” by Nancy Verrier

Unfortunately, not all states are like yours - some are considered “adoption friendly”. Agencies do everything they can to ship “birthmothers” to those states to deliver their babies.

FYI - in states where there are no laws in place to protect the rights of all mothers, hospital policy and procedures to protect mothers and babies do not apply to single mothers. Hospital personnel are paid off by agencies and private adopters to report single women who give birth. Single women are harassed by hospital personnel and SWs who take money under the table from agencies or are looking for a baby for their friends in the even most “secure” hospitals. Also, there are nurses who feel they have the right to push their own personal agenda against single mothers. Adoption predators work through the hospital staff to defeat security regulations to get access to their prey.

Adopters and their agents are also drooling to get into schools to get access to young girls who can breed for them. Advice to send baby begging letters to hospital staff and high school guidance counselors has been offered by adoption predators here on Y!A. When challenged about this, the excuse is that infertile people have the right to find babies any way they can, even if unethical or unlawful.

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Actually, one of the hospitals in this area have adopted a wonderful policy to protect mothers and their children.

The only way to get up to the maternity floor is via a single elevator. Once you get off that elevator, you’re in a locked room. The only way out is via the elevator you take up there or a pair of security doors. These security doors are locked AT ALL TIMES. The only way to open them is if the nursing station opens it for you… and the only way to get them to do that is by a phone that connects you to them. The only way you’re allowed in is if you know the mother’s name and if the mother okays your entry. (The exception, of course, being if you are an immediate family member)

I thought this was a marvelous security measure… it not only keeps out pushy adoption agencies, but people intending on harming other mothers and their babies. The nurseries have been very secure for quite some time, and I was please to find out (when coaching a friend of mine through labor) that now they’re taking steps to protect mothers as well.

If more hospitals would just keep a similar policy of locked doors and mother privacy, the agencies wouldn’t be able to get in and steal babies.

I would also like to say kudos to you state. If we had more laws that said parental rights couldn’t be terminated until 3-6 weeks after the child is born, the whole adoption community would only benefit.

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My lil boy is almost 3 weeks and i give him 2 ounces every hour….hes always hungry. should i start giving him like 4 ounces every 3 or 4 hours?

My 2 week old baby drinks 3 oz ( which most of it she end up spitting out ) every 2 to 3 hours… She just never seemed to get enough…But when i took her to her first dr visit she didn’t gained anything ..So now i try and feed her when ever she’s hungry

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I would try and fill a bottle with about 3-4 ounces and see if he will take it all. Every baby is different. My son is 4 1/2 months old and only drinks on average about 3oz every 3 hours. He is gaining weight fine and is hitting his milestones. But I would deff. try filling a bottle with more formula. If he takes the whole thing, wait to see when he starts to get hungry fussy again. I keep a journal and write down everytime my son eats and how much. Its so much easier then trying to remember. You just have to test the waters. He might even want more! You never know. But your baby knows when he is hungry and full, so don’t think you are ‘over-feeding’ him. Its impossible unless you force it down his throat!

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I met up with an old friend from high school who has a daughter the same age as my son. We both recently had babies as well. She stopped by my house this morning to visit and boy was I in for a surprise with her daughter! Both her daughter and my son are two. The first thing her child did was throw a hard plastic toy at my son’s head, leaving quite a knot. All she did was say “That’s not nice! Go give him a hug.” I was a little unnerved. Her child continued this behavior by taking any toy my son went for. It didn’t matter what it was if he even looked at it she wanted it. She ran through our house with my son’s plastic hammer banging on the walls, floors, furniture. All the while her mom simply said “Sweetie, stop that”. This toddler was practically destroying my home! Then I finally had it when the little girl pushed my son into the fire place and then into the wall. She wants to get together again, but I can’t have that child in my home again. How can I handle this?

Don’t let her come back - arrange to meet somewhere else like a Play Centre.

Do not allow her child to hurt your son and if your friend is not doing it, then you will have to step in and say “We don’t allow friends to play rough here” or “No, Suzy, we don’t push other people”

Otherwise, wait until they are a little older before you let them play together.

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If you value your son’s safety more than your friendship with the other lady, tell her “I’d like to see you, but I don’t want my son playing that roughly.” If she doesn’t get it, translate, “I don’t want my son being *treated* that roughly, do you think you could rein in little Sophie? I want to teach my son good manners and you can help with that…”

EDIT: Wow, it sounds like she is raising her daughter to be an antisocial, male-hating little brat. The blows are going to come later when little Sophie realizes you actually do have to share your toys and wait your turn.

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You just need to tell your friend that you really would love to spend time with her, but she needs to gain control of her daughter. It’s not right that her daughter is physically hurting your son and being disrespectful as well as destroying your home. If she gets upset well then at least she’ll know the truth and you would have to worry about her destroying your house or your son.

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My 7wk old son is drooling like crazy. I know teething is a ways away, so what could this be? My only guess is he’s developing saliva glands..is that it? LOL Do you just keep a bib on them all of the time? I wake up to a puddle of drool all over his sheets

I wondered why they don’t drool at birth but later… maybe it’s an evolutionary thing, if they drooled like that before mom had the time to get attached she’d stick ‘em up a tree branch.
Kidding.
But yeah, they just don’t know how to swallow. Mine drooled like a gargoyle, now she’s weaned she only drools when excitement makes her forget, but at 4 months she looked like that dog in that Tom Hanks movie. Yeah, bib on all the time, sometimes three per day. They also make ‘em with a plastic backing but I feel they’re too hot.

when she spit it out i washed her mouth with listerine. it has been about 26 hours since with out any sickness. should i keep worrying??

Most likely she will be okay, I think it’s okay to relax and stop worrying. How many times have you licked the cake batter spoon with the raw eggs on it? Or raw cookie dough? So most likely she’ll be fine because she didn’t eat it.

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Most likely not. The chicken has to be contaminated for her to become ill.

When I was a child my parents used to feed me beef tar tar or however you spell it. Its really a fancy name for RAW ground up beef and I never got sick from it.

I still wouldn’t give my baby beef tar tar or raw chicken though. lol.

easy your mind. she will be fine

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Haha, no. As people we can EAT raw food and usually won’t get sick, so if she only put it in her mouth, she’ll be fine. Plus it’s been 26 hours. Stop worrying. Ah, you’re a first-time-parent aren’t you. No offense, but you can tell, first-timers worry too much. Just relax. She’ll be OK.

Below is a link to my site where you can get a no-nonsense handbook about child adoption.

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What do you have to do? Fill out a lot of paperwork and do a lot of research. What do you have to be? A good person with the ability to understand that an adoptee has more than one family.

Some suggested reading for you:
Twenty things adopted kids wish their adoptive parents knew
The primal wound
Helping children cope with separation and loss
Journey of the adopted self